Saturday 20 October 2012

Party Time and Heart Wrenching

 
I am soooo late it is silly and I can't even excuse myself because I just forgot. Larissa is such a sweet host, another link up party on a (ahem) Thursday.

This is just a quick post to share something that made my heart ache at work today.

It seems that it is a fact of life in the modern age that families fracture. It is no longer a given that Mums and Dads live in the same house with their babies. It makes me sad but sometimes staying together would give rise to a toxic environment that is no good for anyone involved.

Today my heart broke at the sight of a Dad's heart visibly breaking. I do not pretend to know the circumstances or the reasons, but I watched a Dad today arrive in the library 45 minutes before a visitation with his son which had to be supervised. I saw him bring bags of toys and colouring things in so he could play with whatever he wanted. I saw the joy on his son's face at seeing Daddy for the first time that week and I saw the Dad try to maintain his smile as his son walked away, all the time his heart breaking under the facade waving bye bye until next week.

Like I said, I do not know why, I'm not even sure I want to know why, this Dad finds him self in this situation. It just broke my heart to watch. I pray to whoever listens that they come through this time stronger for it.

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  1. That is heart breaking! By the way, I'm late to Larissa's party too!

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    1. I know. Thanks for stopping by, I haven't started to mingle yet so will make a point to head your way ;-)

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  2. That is so sad. :( I too pray they will come through stronger for it ...

    Thanks so much for linking up, Alison. And the party ends on Tuesday, so there's still plenty of time. :)

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    1. Phew, time left to mingle!!

      It was just heart breaking to witness, I think it was harder because I didn't know the backstory to put it into perspective!

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  3. I hope thing works out for this Dad and thank you for taking us to visit this 'Dad' thru your eyes.

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    1. It was so painful to watch I just hoped to ease it some how by sharing it.

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  4. So sad. I guess a bright side is that he is willing to see the child during this time (even though it is short). Also good that the child is still receptive in a good way to the father.

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    1. They seemed to play so happily together it was heart breaking to see it end!

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  5. I've watched my brother in law go through this. It has gotten harder with teenagers who are too busy to visit. Breaks my heart all over again.

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    1. I would hope that I never have to cross this bridge, but if we did we have said no matter what happens between us it will never affect the kids, not like this!

      I hope your brother in law and his kids work it out, I think most teenagers drift away from their parents but we find our way back in the end!

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  6. That is so sad...I'd want to give him a hug (though suspect that's because I hate seeing people upset).

    I'm so glad he got to see his son at least! I really hope it works out for him.

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    1. I had to hold myself back from giving him a hug!!

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  7. I love that you noticed, and that your heart went out to the pair. I hope they remain close, and that as you say, this makes their relationship stronger. It makes me all the more grateful that I'm able to see and snuggle my babies any time I want.

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    1. It was the first thing I did when I got home, then we snuggled on the sofa watching Mirror Mirror.

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  8. Larissa's Link-Ups are just one of the things I've missed by hiding out away from the computer.

    What a sad situation for that Dad and his son--"heart wrenching" is exactly the term.

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PS Thanks for taking the time to stop by