Showing posts with label Dreams. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Dreams. Show all posts

Thursday, 21 March 2013

Are They Planets or Nuts....

My bloggy BFF is having a baby.........(pause because I still get excited for her when I mention it).......In the mean time she is going through what all mums do; Baby Brain. Why this isn't an official clinical condition I don't know!! So during the course of this debilitating condition, where she will be surrendering as many functional brain cells as possible to her developing child, the only known treatment is to limit multi-tasking. You can read more about how the treatment is going here where you can also hear about her call to share our nuts at the same time! You ready for my nuts??

Prince Charming Conundrum

I spent most of my childhood imagining and dreaming about the day my Prince Charming would ride in and sweep me off my feet. The day when I would be special; the centre of someones universe. I had the wedding dress planned even before I fell for the Other Half, which is some feat given how long we have been together.

Are we all waiting for our Prince to ride in on his steed? Is this what every girl wishes on the stars for? Do we wish for love and to be the centre of someones universe? Will we ever get it?

The reality? Your prince may arrive but he is the centre of your universe too and you end up spinning around each other. There are compromises to be made. The things you do are for mutual benefit. Then your universe experiences it's own big bang and your planets  re-align. They begin to spin not around each other but on the same orbit around the infant planets that have just been born.

Life and love take work and Prince Charming doesn't exist. This is a life lesson that we need to learn. You will never be the centre of someones universe because you will want to light theirs too. So why do we still swoon over films where the boy gets the girl? Where the boy sweeps her off her feet and they live happily ever after? Do we still secretly wish on a star that we could be whisked away?

Did Disney set me up for disappointment at an early age? Or is the definition of Prince Charming more flexible than we are lead to believe?


So, join the fun and share your nuts ;-) link up here or at Kicking Corners.


Tuesday, 7 August 2012

Tuesday, 29 May 2012

Close My Eyes and Think of Me

Yesterday Word Nerd posted a challenge and all it required was closing my eyes for a few moments. I can do that right?

Oh with out falling asleep, silly me!

Seriously, who am I, underneath all of this 'life' what is left? Wow this one made me think! cdnkaro and myself have both commented recently about the idea that photo's of us don't reflect the person we feel inside. I don't think that it is age related, although I often feel like a teenager on the inside, I am reminded this isn't the case when the mirror clearly shows the failings of my old lady creams!

I promptly closed my eyes and wrote down the first things that popped into my head. The images kind of came rushing out into the comments section, but in my haste became coloured with the things I love in my life. Over the last 24 hours this has played on my mind, a lot. I eventually had one of my legendary light bulb moments and realised that one of the characters who comes to me every now and then, who is often the subject of my writing that is strictly for my eyes only, is probably my alter ego.

For those of you expecting my usual dose of original writing, as is customary on a Tuesday, I apologise for the slight deviation today; you can blame Word Nerd! Now that said, let me introduce Faith, my alter ego.

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Faith is a slightly thinner version of me, but not too thin, just nicely curvy. Her hair is short, curly and sun kissed, think Meg Ryan in City of Angels. She has a distinctly hippy style of linens, cheese cloths and faded jeans, spending most of her time bare foot but when needs must flip flops and floral Birkenstock's are her foot wear of choice. Doc Martins do however feature from time to time, sporting multi-coloured laces, for the lengthier walks she takes.

She owns a classic beetle, in metallic purple that is mostly stationary outside her modest beach side house. Her home is light and airy but about as far from modern and minimalist you can get before becoming cluttered. Nothing matches but everything has a synergy that is calming. There are handmade crafts and original pieces of art dotted all around. All of which have a story or a memory attached to them. The house certainly has Faiths personal stamp on it, there wasn't much work to do when she fell in love with the place but each room was treated to the Faith makeover when she first moved in. Her favourite piece of furniture is the huge comfy arm chair by the window that she can curl right up into it with a view of the sea. Many an hour sat reading, writing or just thinking, have been passed in that chair, cuddled up under the crocheted throw made by her own fair hands.

Every morning she wakes naturally and sits on the window seat of her bedroom to watch the sunrise over the hills and woods that spread out from the back of her house. After dressing and briefly completing the necessary chores, she takes a walk either on the beach, into the hills or through the woods. Her constant companion is the bag over her shoulder holding her note pad, pencils and a drink along with her blue rowan spaniel, Sam. They would wander for hours and always find a spot to sit for a while and write down her random thoughts. She is hard pressed to choose a favourite between sitting under a tree listening to the birds, on the beach watching the waves or on the hillside looking down on the world.

In the evenings she would cook simple meals of pasta and rice, with an occasional treat of Chinese takeaway. Always eaten by candle light and in the winter months she would sit by the open fire.

Occasionally she was joined by her friend, Dan, who would spend the days showing her the things around her that she had a habit of over looking; from old ruins around and about or the local wildlife. The evenings were passed sharing stories and good wine either sat by the fire or on the beach, listening to the waves crash in the dark. When Dan wasn't around she would write into the evening about what ever came to her, this way she would make enough money to get by, along with occasionally selling her own pieces of art and sculpture in the local artisan shops.

A family was in her future somewhere, sometime and she would stay here long after they had grown and flown the nest. She would teach her girl all the things she knew, they would be raised on a healthy diet of literature and the outdoors. In turn they would raise beautiful daughters of their own.

There is much more to Faith, but like I said for the moment she is mostly for my eyes only. Some writing is just like that. She is the me of my dreams, without life's complications!

If you haven't already tried this check out Word Nerds challenge and see what happens, it is much more thought provoking than you first think!

Sunday, 6 May 2012

Flutterby Butterfly

Ok, so I get it now, Doh! 'Butterflies' relates to nice nerves, excited nerves, nerves for things you are looking forward to. The feeling you get in the run up to a big holiday or an exciting life change.

Earlier in the week I had two interviews and I wanted these jobs A LOT! I have never really faced this situation before. Sure I have applied for jobs, been through interviews and wanted them to like me and for me to get the job. But they have never been jobs that I saw as having any career prospects or where I thought I could stay and work until I jog on to retirement. No they were all temporary and I knew that going into them, so it never really mattered if I got the job or not! This was different, which meant the nerves were different too. Great big somersaulting Dumbo's doing their best to make me feel ill at every possible moment.

Now the interviews are over and apparently not as affected by the nerves as I thought they were. It appears that I impressed them. So soon, date to be confirmed, I will get to work around my most favouritest thing in the world, every day (and yes I did just revert to extremely childish language because that is how excited I am). I never for one  minute dreamed that my path would lead me to working in a library, but the road I am on at the moment is sign posted library, eta approx 1 month.

I have dreamed of working with books for some considerable time now, always assuming that I would have to win the lottery to make this dream a reality. I placated myself with night time reading and occasional book browsing. For once I can see a dream of mine becoming reality, granted not in a way I ever thought it would.

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As I eagerly await the necessary administrative processes to be over and my start date to be finalised, I finally understand the difference between nerves and butterflies and the two are not interchangeable. The flutter and flitter of the imaginary critters continues in my gut as I anticipate the wonderful new adventure ahead of me.

Wednesday, 21 March 2012

Dreams

Unfortunately not the hot and steamy ones about the cute guy that you see at work every day, sorry! I'm talking about the dreams you have about your life, your ambitions.

I used to think that our dreams and ambitions in life were something we had to decide on early and then they were fixed. Some kind of covenant carved in stone and if you didn't achieve said ambition you had failed in life. Oh and there was only one dream per person.

 

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If this were true, I failed in life a long time ago when I didn't see through the childhood dream of becoming a hairdresser, no paramedic, no nurse, or maybe teacher... These were just childish dreams, the real fun starts when you set a career goal, your ambition for life. Does it include marriage, a family? What happens though when you can't see this dream through or if in the course of driving towards your intended destination you realise you're not sure this is where you are supposed to be heading in life? Have you failed?

When I left University my dreams had crumbled around me for various reasons and to date I still haven't set myself a master plan for life. Don't get me wrong, I have lived to see some of my dreams come to fruition; marrying the man I love and having children of my own, but is this enough? For me...no!

So what do I want from life? What do I dream of being when I grow up? I'm still not sure on this one and I wonder sometimes if I would achieve more in life if I had a goal to aim for. Or does that put too much pressure in me and result in that nagging feeling of failure!

I envy people who dream a dream as a child and live it as an adult; the best selling novelist who knew they were going to write as a child, the child that dreamed of being a fireman and ended up saving his friends from a fire. Are you living your childhood dream? Or has your dream changed shape a few times along the way?

Recently I discovered a great new blog The Written Word and whilst taking everything in on this site I discovered this quote.

At least this means I am not too old to wing it a little longer, just to see what happens. You never know what magic moment may be around the corner and I don't want to miss any.